Is 85 the New
65? How to stay young in heart and mind to maximize your life!
I’ll begin by stating an absolute truth: age is a state of
mind. You may dismiss my declaration as a cliché, but I’m here
to tell you that it’s an invaluable secret. What’s more, if you
embrace the wisdom at its core by practicing my approach to dealing
with life’s trials and tribulations, you’ll discover a personal
fountain of youth that will provide you with the physical, spiritual
and emotional energy to experience the world with a child’s wonder
It may sound like a lot to promise, especially if you’re
currently in the grip of a serious and chronic illness, but as
readers of my book,
The Power Of
Adversity: Tough Times Can Make Your Stronger, Wiser, and Better,
know, I too have struggled to conquer serious illness and regain my
I’ve endured – and surmounted – terrible arthritis, serious
heart disease and major depression. What’s more I’m a recovering
alcoholic. Today, at age 84, I’m healthy, and happily married to the
woman of my dreams; a proud father and grandfather; CEO of a
multi-million dollar company; and a thoughtful philanthropist.
I assure you that the rules I share with you today on how to
stay young at heart and in mind by harnessing the power of adversity
have stood the test of time. In fact they’ve helped me beat
Father Time and stay young… and they can do the same for you!
Rule #1: Attitude
and the Mind
– The power of
positive imagery: The number one factor to maintaining
your youth is to develop a youthful perspective – by keeping a
positive mindset. The mind, overwhelmed by fear, can be like a drop
of mercury on a table, slithering and breaking into wildly evasive
squirts and pieces. On the other hand, the mind when positively
rooted in a deep passion for life, is more certain and powerful than
the forces which rotate the earth.
You will go a long way toward overcoming your adversities
that do so much to age you when you avail yourself of the power of
positive thinking. I know this to be true because it is that same
power that enabled me to control my alcoholism, beat arthritis and
accomplish what was once considered impossible: total reversal of
Start now to put positive imagery to work for you. One
powerful technique to help you do so that I elaborate upon in my
book is to not think when facing a life-challenge:
“I have to do it.” Instead, think: “I have it to
do.” This will help you take control of your adversity – and
You see, staying young is all about choice. So choose
to be young – or restore your youth – by thinking positively with
the right imagery. Decide now to regain the healing optimism we all
once had as infants learning to walk, when we took our first albeit
wobbly but determined steps into our bright futures!
Rule #2: Meditation
– The art of letting go:
Practicing meditation is the way to create and sustain your
positive mindset. Most of the time, our heads are filled with an
endless loop of the same thoughts formed over our lives. They drive
us to distraction and often plunge us into anxiety. This mental
stress and strain becomes physical stress, which greatly contributes
to our aging.
Meditation helps alleviate mental stress, short-circuiting
the aging process. Far from being a mystical art, meditation is as
down to earth and results-oriented as physical exercise. There’s lot
of information available on different ways to meditate. Do a bit of
web surfing or browse the shelves of your local bookstore to find a
method that feels right for you. I meditate in the pool, by
concentrating on my breathing while swimming laps.
Communication – Articulating the speech of the heart: The
poet W.B. Yeats described prayer as the “inarticulate speech of the
heart.” Our youthful goal is to articulate the heart’s
thoughts and feelings, to help us revitalize our spirits, reconnect
with others, and replenish our youth.
It was my rheumatoid arthritis that shoved me stumbling along
the first few steps of the communication path. Before that bout of
suffering, I had barricaded myself from the world. As I struggled
with the relentless pain, depression and a lack of certainty about
the future, I was granted the gift of a lifetime: the opportunity to
relearn how to trust others. I also relearned that trying to get
through life alone wears away one’s youth, both inside and out.
Reaching out to others and accepting their reaching out to you will
go a long way to help you stay young.
You know, at my age the world would probably expect me to
dodder about reminiscing about my “better days.” But for me, that
could never be. I still revel in going to my office each day at
Weatherchem, the best plastics closure company in America, to chat
with my employees and feel the surge of human connection. I also
look forward to…
Opening a letter from one of the philanthropic causes I
support, experiencing the sweetness of knowing I am making a
positive difference in the world and longing to do more… Swimming
laps in the pool, scudding through the water like a cloud through
the blue sky as I meditate on the miracle and mantra of my
breathing… And ending each day talking to my beloved wife, Celia,
exchanging words and touches, sharing all that has passed between us
and anticipating all that is yet to come.
You, too, can recharge and replenish your body, mind and
spirit. Take the first steps to maximize your life right now by
following these powerful and liberating rules to stay forever young!
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