Once and for All
People in every
industry and from all walks of life suffer from a debilitating
addiction. Its effects keep people from reaching their potential and
from truly enjoying life. Called “comfort addiction,” it occurs any
time someone complains about his job or life, yet never makes a
suffer from comfort addiction are addicted to the comfort level
they’re currently at – even if they claim they don’t like their
current job or situation. While it may sound illogical to stay in a
situation that makes you unhappy, it’s actually very common. Why?
Depending on how someone was raised and how that person is now
living his or her life, the person has developed a pattern developed
and is used to living a certain way. At this point, even a behavior
that’s not normal seems normal, so the person continues to live that
suppose you grew up in a household where your father verbally abused
you. Throughout life you thought that’s how all male leader figures
acted. Now in your job, you have a male boss who yells and verbally
abuses people. While it’s an uncomfortable situation, it’s what
you’re used to, so you don’t do anything to change it. You’re
comfortable with being uncomfortable in this scenario. That’s
Realize this is
a very real addiction, just like being addicted to alcohol,
gambling, food, or drugs. So even though someone says he wants to
get a promotion or start a business, he really doesn’t want the
responsibility that comes along with what the goal would create. He
doesn’t want to wake up at 5 a.m. and work a long day because he’d
miss his “comfort routine”: a workout at the gym, coffee at
Starbucks, and lunch with some friends talking about his dream job.
seriously ready to make a change in your life and get out of your
comfort zone, the following strategies will help.
One of the
reasons why people suffer with comfort addiction is they don’t trust
themselves. Perhaps they’ve tried to make a change in the past but
didn’t succeed, either because they didn’t plan the change properly
or they attempted too much too soon. As a result, they have a
constant loop playing in their head that repeats their failure(s)
and says, “I’m not good enough.”
this, commit to small things and accomplish them. For example, you
could commit to something simple, such as wearing a tie to work
today or showing up on time. The key is to pick one simple thing you
can commit to, not a laundry list of several things that will
overwhelm you. As you accomplish the one small thing, do it again
the next day. Then, add something else you’ll commit to. Once you
start to believe what you say to yourself, your confidence will
start to soar.
leave your comfort zone, your natural tendency will be to return to
it. And unfortunately, turning to friends and family for support
doesn’t often work. While they do love you and want the best for
you, they too suffer from comfort addiction. They know you as a
certain type of person with a certain job and lifestyle, so seeing
you as someone new is hard for them. Therefore, you have to keep
yourself motivated and on track to your goal.
To do so, send
yourself positive affirmations, text messages, e-mails, and
voicemails to keep yourself lifted and inspired. Actually write them
or record them and send these messages to yourself. It may sound
odd, but it does work. When you hear yourself say, “Have a great
day. I believe in you!” in your own voice, the message sinks in.
Additionally, reading positive messages in your own words increases
their believability in your brain. The more positive messages you
can send yourself to stay motivated, the easier it’ll be to leave
your comfort zone.
yourself one step away from that goal:
self-improvement experts say to visualize yourself in your goal –
actually achieving it and celebrating. That works for some people,
but if comfort addiction has its grip on you, a better approach is
to visualize yourself one step away from what you always say you
want. Feel what that’s like. Savor that moment. See it on a movie
screen. Being that close to your goal, how do you feel?
When you’re one
step away, you only have one more step to take until you succeed. At
this moment, you can finally see what’s really stopping you from
getting that goal. You can see your saboteur or comfort addiction
trigger. If you’re one step away, have done all the work, and only
have one step left, you can do that one thing. That one thing
– whatever it is – is easy to overcome. You simply have to identify
what it is.
Take a serious
look at your health:
Many times a
person’s poor health is the culprit for comfort addiction. In fact,
sometimes we are not even aware of what is going on in our bodies.
When our hormones are not right and our energy levels are low, our
motivation for getting out of our comfort zone goes out the window.
Additionally, when you’re not strong physically – when you feel weak
and tired – you simply don’t have the energy to make a change. You
stay in the comfort zone and don’t know why.
If you think
your health has a role to play in your comfort addiction, by all
means consult a doctor. Also consider adding exercise to your daily
routine to boost circulation and enhance your energy. Reduce or
eliminate your use of alcohol, nicotine and caffeine. These
substances can become very addictive, masking a greater imbalance in
your physical, emotional and spiritual health. Finally, choose to be
joyful to enhance your mental health. Cultivate a spirit of
gratitude, and regularly forgive others as well as yourself.
Go For It!
Ultimately, you get to choose how you live, what you do, and how
successful you are. It doesn’t matter how you’ve been raised, what
kind of jobs you’ve had in the past, or what your current income
level is – your future is always your choice. Don’t be comfortable
in your self-pity or victim mentality. How your work or personal
life is now is not how it always has to be. When you acknowledge
that you have a comfort addiction and take the steps to overcome it,
you can achieve every goal you set out for yourself and live the
life of your dreams.
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