Looking for Love?
By Dr. Molly Barrow
Are you looking for a new relationship?
Where do you start to find the right partner? Think of your quest
for love as a real job. Just like when you finally got serious about
a profession instead of just browsing the want ads, you have to
commit to doing the work it takes to find a good partner.
Rule 1: Be seen in public.
If you look for a partner in a bar, chances are much higher that you
will find an alcoholic. You must be far more creative than that! Go
for the hobbies and sports, religious events and charities, and the
coffee houses and cafes. Take a book and plant
yourself in the best lighting, smile and say "Hello" to everyone.
Rule 2: Imagine every detail about your
perfect partner. Include what
they wear, the places they frequent and the hobbies they enjoy. You
should be able to literally draw the one for whom you are looking.
We will certainly compromise on this later but for now get a picture
of what qualities would
truly make you happy in a
great "catch." Test yourself to see your strengths and weaknesses in
Odds are that
you will get your heart broken 99 times out of a hundred encounters
with the opposite sex. (That
percentage is how often encyclopedia salesman figure their sales
pitch will be successful, and is probably not really useful here.)
The point is if you cannot take the heartbreak of rejection then you
cannot really play the game wholeheartedly. Count on a week of
torturous crying and three months of feeling rotten
for every affair that ends badly because you did not want to break
up yet. Practical men may grieve far less than the romantic ladies.
Rule 4: Reach up, not down.
No matter how many times you have failed at love reach up for your
match, not lower. A lowlife will break your heart even faster than
someone who appears a little out of your league. Read “Matchlines:
A Revolutionary New Way of Looking at Relationships and Making the
Right Choices in Love” for help in selecting a proper partner.
Rule 5: See each interaction with another
person, no matter how brief, as
a success not a failure. Keeping a great relationship is the hardest
job in the world. Practice, practice, practice.
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