How Do Relationships Ever Progress?
By Karen Card
Everyone’s goal in a relationship is to be in a happy. However, men
and women may view their happiness differently. As women become
comfortable in a new relationship, they tend to want to move up to
the next level as soon as possible. If she is happy at the present
level, she believes she will be even happier at the next
level. If dating feels good, she believes being engaged must feel
even better; if being engaged feels good, then being married must
feel even better. She is always striving for the next level.
other hand, men tend to follow the old saying, “if it’s not broke,
don’t fix it”. If a man is happy at the present level of his
relationship, he wants to keep it right where it is. He feels if
they move to another level, there is a chance he won’t be as happy.
Any time there is a change – in any area of his life – there is a
chance he could feel worse and not better. He is striving to keep
the relationship at the current level of happiness.
is a great distance between the beliefs of men and women when it
comes to progressing through a relationship. The important thing to
keep in mind is that these differences in beliefs are not based on
the individuals, but rather on the differences in the sexes.
Advice to Men: Understand it is natural for a woman to want to
move ahead. She can not completely open up to you until she feels
you are moving to the next level. This is just how woman are.
Advice to Women: Realize him dragging his feet is natural and do
not take it personally. Let him know you cannot fully enjoy the
relationship until it moves forward – but do not pressure him into
moving. If you try to move him forward too fast, he will resist you
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