Less Stress and More Success:
How to Stop Negative Thinking
By Dr. Lee Jampolsky
something isn’t working, the most obvious remedy is to change it,
whatever it is. For example, a CEO will stop an out of date production
practice and decide on a new system to increase the bottom line,
rather than continue to lose money on the old technology. Or, a
customer service manager will stop a phone practice that repeatedly
angers callers and decide on a new approach, rather than continue to
threaten repeat business with an ineffective method. Whatever isn’t
working gets changed, especially in business.
change is a way of life. When a process or method doesn’t yield
results, most people naturally think to change it. But people don’t
naturally consider change as a remedy for their own negative thinking,
even when their negative thoughts limit the success of their business.
Why not? Maybe because they can’t identify their own negative
thought processes, or maybe they have difficulty looking at themselves
objectively. Regardless of the reason, you can change these negative
patterns just like any other aspect of life.
following principles have been taught not only to the business world,
but also to people in the middle of war zones and facing imminent
death from catastrophic illness. If people can overcome obstacles in
these situations, then it can happen in your job, your company, and in
every aspect of your life.
Remember, the primary obstacles to
success are always negative
beliefs and habits that are self-imposed. When you practice the
following techniques for stopping negative thinking and deciding on
positive actions, you will successfully overcome the negative thoughts
that limit you.
Thinking: My work is meaningless, and there is nothing I can do about it.
I will do the best I can in all situations. Many people complain that they are no
longer happy in their career or position. They cite many common
reasons, such as not caring anymore about the work, feeling that
nothing seems very important, and believing nobody appreciates their
If this sounds like you, then decide
today to stop only thinking about the reasons you are unhappy and
simply begin to go to work and do the very best you can. As you begin
to focus less on the reasons you are unsatisfied, and more on doing
the finest work you can, you will become more satisfied. Don’t wait
for your job to make you want to do your best; bring your best to your
2. Stop Thinking:
Whether I meet my goals is determined by things outside of my control.
Whatever is happening RIGHT NOW I can learn from and create
you ever noticed how two individuals can have similar circumstances
happen, but do very different things with the experience? For example,
two people can work hard and expend the same amount of energy and
resources to launch a company, have similar results but different
reactions to those results. If neither company truly takes off, one
person may become bitter and blame others, while another person uses
the experience as a way to learn and create future opportunities. The
defining mindset is not thinking of yourself as a victim. Instead,
learn from what is happening and create opportunity.
I am what I do.
I will keep perspective. The outcome of my job situation will not make
or break my life.
Many people tie their personal success
and survival to that of their company’s. That is, they view the
survival of their business and their personal survival as being one
and the same. They cannot imagine being happy if their company does
not make it, and that leads to constant stress.
The key perspective that leads to more
job satisfaction is to know you can choose and direct yourself to be
calm inside, regardless of what happens outside. Although external
change, such as a job or change in organizational structure, may be
important, the most important thing you can address is the way you
think in every single moment. This creates a situation where your
happiness falls within your control. Typically, the quickest way to
less stress and more success is to stop listening to fear. Realize
that even though you may care deeply about your company, you have
worth beyond its success or failure.
My “to do list” and accomplishments are the most important things.
Being patient, kind, and understanding can be the new foundation for
Becoming sidetracked and stressed by a
multitude of tasks and problems, and losing sight of what really
matters in the long-run, are easy. In the increasingly complicated
work world, it can seem that reacting quickly to endless problems,
emptying the “in box” as much as possible, and keeping as many
balls in the air as you can are the most important tasks.
Few retirees, regardless of their success
level while working, look back at their careers and say, “I wish I
had been a little less patient and more of a tyrant.” In fact, most
look back and see the value of traits such as patience, kindness, and
understanding, and wish they had taken more time to develop these. Use
the wisdom of their perspective in order to create the job
satisfaction you want now, because you will be happier in your job
even when things are not going right.
Negative Habits to Meet Your Goals:
Negative habits can be just as
detrimental to your success and happiness as negative thoughts. If you
don’t change these habits, no matter what attempt you make in
overcoming an obstacle—even job or organizational change—you will
not find lasting satisfaction and true success. Stop the following
negative habits in order to overcome the obstacles you may face daily
in your job:
blaming, because it takes you away from accountability, self-reflection, and
Stop holding grudges, because all they really
do is hold you back.
Stop seeing value in anger, because it leads you away from
inner calm and even causes physical illness.
Stop jumping to attack, because this will lead to lack of
Stress and More Success Now:
The biggest obstacles to success are often
self-imposed negative thoughts and habits, which can lead to
dissatisfaction with your job, minimized self-worth, and feelings of a
lack of control. Fortunately, you can change these negative thoughts
and habits just like anything else that doesn’t work, but you must
decide to make the change. When you practice stopping negative
thinking and habits that don’t work and decide on a new direction,
you can regain your sense of satisfaction and reach new levels of
success in your business.
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