Relationships – the Key to Improved Passion and Performance
Are your relationships draining the passion out of your personal
life and sabotaging your performance in the workplace? If your
relationships are out of balance, whether at home, in the workplace
or both, passion and mutual fulfillment suffer at home and your
productivity and performance suffer at work.
According to marketing statistics, the single most important word in
the English language is “you” and the least important is “I.” But it
is very interesting to note that when you put you and I together you
create “we,” the second most important single word. Together “we”
can accomplish more, enjoy life more, create a better widget, help
others live a better life or bring peace to planet earth.
Relationships, it’s all about relationships. People buy products
from people, not companies. People attend concerts because of the
relationships they have with the performers and others in the
audience. People want to speak with people to solve problems, not an
impersonal electronically modulated voice on the other end of the
Some relationships you choose such as friends, teammates, your
spouse; some are mandatory e.g. family, workplace associates and
professionals. Because humans are wired to be connected,
relationships are not an option - but who you have relationships
with other than the mandatory ones are a choice, your choice. Are
your relationships energy-draining or filled with positive energy to
support your passion and performance?
Are Energy-Drainers Standing in Your Way:
Just because our society is constantly in contact with the advent of
social media doesn’t mean that as a society relationships are
connected, committed or fulfilling. Everything changed for
relationships both at work and home with the arrival of the 21st
Century. Society realized they could no longer interact and
communicate the same way they did in the last century. They needed
to be more flexible and open with their relationships and realize
that one-size no longer fits all. The home/work paradigm they all
grew up with as the norm for the last fifty years was non-existent
and the new norm was change.
Personal Life Energy-Drainers:
Are there things from the past or present standing in your way,
energy-draining barriers that are preventing you from enjoying
relationships filled with passion and performance? On the personal
side energy-drainers can include things like:
Time consumers like television, children, money, sports,
social media, self-absorption
Relationships in the workplace can have dynamically contrasting
views of what constitutes working relationships because the
employees can range over several generations in age and bring with
them a diverse definition of work ethic and interaction. Some of
their energy-drainers could include:
According to Leadership expert John Maxwell, “One of the greatest
mistakes leaders make is spending too much time in their offices and
not enough time out among the people. Leaders are agenda driven,
task focused, and action oriented because they like to get things
done. They hole up in their offices, rush to meetings, and ignore
everyone they pass along the way. What a mistake! First and
foremost, leadership is people business.” In the workplace, people
must be the number one priority of the leader. If they are, they
will support the leader that values their time and importance.
Building Mutually Satisfying Relationships:
doesn’t matter if you are trying to improve your personal
relationships and re-ignite passion or your workplace relationships
to improve your performance, the solutions are the same. Flip your
thinking so you can get rid of the old norm and operate in the 21st
old thinking about the way things were when you were younger with
what works in today’s society and economy. Relationships must be
mutually satisfying, fulfilling and supportive. This is true in
marriages and employee/employer relationships.
is the fundamental principle and the foundation for all successful
relationships. It is the only behavior of choice for equally
balanced relationships. If you make a commitment to someone, keep it
– you are showing respect for the other person. If you won’t or
can’t, don’t commit.
This is a huge problem in today’s well-intended over-committed
society. The inability to keep commitments will eventually lead to
resentment, anger and indifference.
is created by finding ways to connect with each other and building a
bond that will take you through the good and the difficult times in
the future. Work at keeping the communication lines open – this is
the only way to maintain balanced healthy relationships.
old conflicts so they can no longer fester and infect the
relationship causing it to wither and die. Then remember to keep
those old conflicts buried. Do not continue to replay them in a
continuous loop, attacking, accusing or demanding; instead look out
for each others well-being.
the core values and beliefs your relationship was built on. Truth,
commitment and loyalty are fundamental for strong relationships.
Trust is the reason why most people stay connected. If things
aren’t working, go back to the core values of your original
relationship. If there weren’t any, find the ones you can use now to
improve your relationships in the future.
help you further energize supportive balanced relationships locate
the southwest area of your living/family room. Using a Feng Shui
supportive energy principle, place in that area something that
represents equal balanced relationships such as a picture of a
family gathering or a victorious sales team where everyone is happy
and celebrating; a large bouquet of silk flowers with each flower
representing a different relationship or perhaps picture on the wall
exhibiting good interpersonal relationships will also work. You will
stay focused on building and maintaining healthy relationships at
home and at work.
Flip your thinking and adopt a 21st Century attitude of
accepting the new norm to help you re-engage, re-energize and
regenerate your passion, perspective and performance in all your
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